Anger is your best friend
An uncontrollable urge relieving oneself through temporary self-resolves whether that is in the form of physical violence or shouting abuse. We are all culprits of being consumed by anger every now and again. Some situations may not cause serious issues and can be diffused either by the individual or those surrounding. And in some situations, it can escalate at rates we cannot perceive and do not wish to witness further damage. We cannot fully control anger; I am aware of that, but we can take steps to lessen the damage we could inflict. This blog will be my first serious piece, let’s begin.
I’d humbly say I’m able to control my anger fairly well regardless of the situation. There have been many moments I’ve lost my composure and voiced things I shouldn’t have but alas, that’s normal. It’s the frequency that isn’t acceptable, I cannot fault someone for losing their temper as everyone reacts differently given their situation. However, I will fault those who deem it okay to continue in their degenerate behaviour, expecting no consequences. Anger affects your mental state and those around you, always be mindful. I digress, individuals that have not been diagnosed with ‘anger issues’ have no reason to act up.
Being passive-aggressive
If you’re frustrated and choose to act in a passive-aggressive manner (instead of voicing how you truly feel) perhaps, you’re foolish. In what mind does implicitly showing your anger solve the situation? it’ll just piss off those around you unless of course, that is your intention. You can easily solve 99% percent of unfortunate situations by simply sharing exactly how you feel, there is no benefit to beating around the bush, it just further intoxicates a situation. Okay, I get that direct confrontation in some cases may not be the best option but, that doesn’t mean confrontation as a whole isn’t.
Anger is good
Yes, I’ve contradicted myself, read on before you question my thought process. Acting out in anger can ruin relationships and just adds fire to the fuel when it can be avoided. But, how about channelling that anger? using that emotion to help the situation? (if it can be helped). Anger can lead to aggression within a matter of minutes, if for one moment you pause and assess the situation, I guarantee you will think of a solution that doesn’t require verbal or physical abuse. Whenever I see hatred towards Islam anywhere online, I’m immediately infuriated as usually the reasonings are justified due to preconceived opinions. As a Muslim, I’m passionate about my religion and I practice as best as I can. There are definitely moments that I wish to retaliate in the same manner but I know it will not fix the issue. I see problems like this as an opportunity, an opportunity to further seek knowledge on Islam then I can educate the ignorant.
All in all, practising patience in times of infuriation is an arduous task many of us will fail. It’s not an emotion we consciously seek out to control as we don’t see it as a problem, which I can understand. If you’re someone who rarely erupts with anger, then why would you attempt to control it? But anger may not cause an immediate reaction, everyone deals with anger in different ways. It may play on your mind for several hours, days, or even weeks after the incident. The mental impact of anger worsens over time if there is no resolve. Understand the situation, be objective, and seek to resolve not to retaliate.